Days of Action
Against Gender-Based Violence
16 Days of Action against Gender-based Violence (GBV) is an international campaign to challenge violence and abuse, especially against women and girls.
The campaign runs every year from 25 November, the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women, to 10 December, Human Rights Day. Every year community and voluntary groups across Bedfordshire join the global campaign to raise awareness of, and help bring an end to, all forms of gender violence. This year marks the 30th anniversary of the global 16 Days Campaign.
What is Abuse?
slap, hit or punch you, push or shove you, bite or kick you, burn you, choking, strangulation, kicking, physical restraint, throwing objects or using objects as weapons, force-feeding or denying food, any acts that hurt or threaten you.
Humiliation, manipulation, negating, criticizing, isolating, blaming, denial, neglect, creating co-dependency controlling, verbal aggression, gaslighting.
Threats and Intimidation
threats to hurt or kill you or family or friends, destroy things that belong to you, yelling and screaming, invading your personal space, harassment, bullying any behaviour that would reasonably cause a person to fear injury or harm.
The abuse does not have to involve penetration and is an abusive sexual behaviour act committed by one person on another. inappropriate touching, unwanted sexual demands, hurt you during sex, pressure you to have unsafe sex, pressure you to have sex, rape, force taking advantage of a victim, Revenge porn.
is psychological manipulation and controlling abuse that makes you question your own memory, perception, and sanity. There are three stages to gaslighting in a relationship: idealisation, devaluation, and discard.
Isolation, monitoring your activity, controlling money, name-calling, Jealousy, threats, manipulating children, making sure you’re afraid, dependent, isolated, and worthless. It could be a partner family or friends. Coercive Control is not always violence.
Stalking is defined as “a pattern of unwanted, fixated and obsessive behaviour which is intrusive and causes fear of violence or serious alarm or distress
Aggressive pressure or intimidation, unwanted behaviour which is offensive or makes you feel afraid or fearful of violence. Texts, phone calls, letters, emails, threats, outside your home or work or driving past it
Sabotage from acquiring money, prevent you from education employment, limit your working hours/pay, take your pay, restrict from benefits, no access to bank, controlling your spending, ’ Economic abuse is more than controlling finances. Controlling you use of property.
Are you being pulled away from your support network? e.g. Friends and family. They may do this by talking negatively about them, and causing you to doubt them and their intentions. This can result in you becoming more tethered and reliant on your partner.
Your partner becoming more demanding and needs to know where you are and who you are with all the time. Possessiveness and mistrust. Accusations of cheating and flirting
Your partner may try to humiliate you by making jokes at your expense, and accuse you of ‘overreacting’ when you tell them it hurt your feelings. Being silenced. Breaking you down instead of building you up.
Angry and hurtful fights, followed by emotional makeups and promises it will never happen again.
Respecting Space and Boundries
Both physically and digitally
try to change, or control you, or to seek unconditional love
Being able to Admit and Apologise
When wrong, the ability to admit this and too apologize
Communicating well, and openly. Supporting you and your ambitions.
Having Lives Outside Eachother
Words from some of the women who have been affected by domestic abuse and improved their lives with the help of the services of IMPAKT Domestic Abuse and D.A.R.T